Single Saturdays (Part 1)

This is not from the general view of men. I’ll have to make that clear before I would get violent reactions out of this blog. But this is from one lonely guys’ sentiment who’s on the lookout for the perfect woman (in his own terms) to add ‘life’ to his life.. or maybe, to the Saturdays of his life? Inspired by Matt Dunn, the author of ‘From here to Paternity’.

Another Single Saturday? It is when he would open his eyes on a Saturday morning and climbing across the empty side of his double-bed, making his way wearily into the bathroom. Surely, he would feel how Single Saturdays suck.

And for someone who hates Single Saturdays, it remains to be always the same. Waking up sometime around 8, which is the same waking time as it on weekdays, and seeing that there’s no one to spend the morning in the bed with. So he had to get up straight away, chuck some clothes on and step out to get the paper and a hot cup of coffee.. then heading straight back home for breakfast and his usual pathetic attempt at the crossword.

In an hour, he’ll change into his workout gear and head over to the gym, in the vain hope that his Single Saturday might ‘magically’ turn into a Couple Saturday. Because guys doesn’t go to the gym on Saturdays for a workout! But he’d go because he’s hoping that he’ll bump into this gorgeous single girl who’s stuck in the same lonely routine like him.. and they’ll get chatting and maybe one of them will suggest a coffee or a drink or even a dinner.

But of course, there could hardly be any gorgeous single girl at the gym on a Saturday morning. They’ve all been snapped up, or they’ve snapped up someone themselves. So, instead, he’ll spend an hour mixing it up between the weights and the machines while watching obscure sport on the TV screens dotted around the room but always keeping one eye on who’s coming in through, just in case.

Then he’d be back home for lunch because no one likes going out to eat on their own, particularly on a weekend. And because he couldn’t face trudging around the malls on a Saturday either mainly because he’d have to keep pushing past all the loved-up couples who jam the town centre during weekends. So lunch will be followed by an afternoon in front of the TV watching football with a beer or two.

Freedom? He used to think. He can do whatever he want. He’s got no commitments. No need to be somewhere at some specific time, or to do anything he don’t want simply because his girlfriend might fancy it. (This is the best part of being single, yah!?)

But he’s grown tired of it. Tired of constantly being on the lookout for someone who might be a girlfriend material.. Tired of not being able to meet a woman without summing her up, giving her marks out of 10.. wondering if she’s single and flirting with her if she is – and sometimes, even if she isn’t. And tired of going through the same motions time & time again, only to watch the relationship fail because they probably weren’t right for each other in the first place! And only got together because they both hated the idea of Single Saturdays!?

And the reason it’s tiring for him is because of the pressure on him being a single guy. Every time he’d meet a woman, the stress starts. If he think she’s attractive, then he can’t possibly relate to her as a normal human being. There’s always this hidden – in some cases, not so hidden.. agenda of wondering if he would ask her out, and more importantly – wondering what their chances of success would be if he did. He can’t help thinking of every single woman he meet as a sex object, because quite frankly, that’s exactly what they are to him. Even if he doesn’t think they’re attractive, he still feel duty-bound to flirt just a little because if he’s half-decent then he wouldn’t want to hurt his feelings. And because women hardly ever, in fact – never, ask men out, he know that he’s safe to do that.

All of it – the nice car, good flat, gym memberships, dressing well, long runs in the evening.. they’re not really to make him feel better (.. and I don’t agree with this!) They’ve all got to do with attracting the opposite sex (Again, this is from one single guy’s point of view and definitely not from you) .. and they’re tiring, too.

So, Single Saturdays, anyone? Or whatever the day of your weekend is….

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