Why He Doesn't Want a Relationship?

 
He doesn’t want a commitment. He doesn’t want to make any promises.  He doesn’t want a relationship. But he gets close to you and calls you a ‘special friend’. Not friends with benefits but a special friend. You could be wondering what is it about a special friend. I’ll tell you.

A special friend for him is someone whom he could share a mutual feeling of closeness. He’s consistently in touch, he meets you once in a while, you spend movie nights together on the couch with some popcorns and drinks.  Some nights, you’d have dinner. You sit hours and hours hugging each other. You both laugh at funny scenes and stay close. He rubs your shoulder while your head rests on his chest. He would play with your hair then touches your arm as yours lay across his tummy. There are times that he holds your hand and you try to fit your fingers in between the spaces of his. He tickles you a lot. You also try to tickle him back but it just doesn’t work for him. He kisses your forehead and your nose and your cheeks and your lips. He wraps you tightly in his arms and you just wanted to be there forever.

For you, it is heaven. It is all you ever wanted. But wake up, girl! Remember – no promises, no commitments. There will be no next level to it. There will be no girlfriend-boyfriend thing. And to your advantage, there will be no s**. That’s part of being special friends and that’s what makes it different from being friends with benefits. He makes sure that no one would breach the agreement. He doesn’t want to spoil what he shares with you  and he doesn’t want to spoil you.

But let’s take a look at you. You do not see him as an ordinary guy. He’s intelligent and neat and charming and decent. He’s someone ideal and you like him. A lot, actually. But you try to block what you feel because you have a deal. So you start to lie.. to yourself and to him. You try to appear okay everytime you get together. You try to appear cool but deep inside, you are head-over-heels in-love with him. You don’t want to lose him so you just keep what you feel all to yourself. When he’s hugging and kissing you, you’re hugging and kissing him back with all your emotions. You are dying to say those three little words that when you will tell him could break your special friendship apart.. and might cause you to lose him forever.

Ahhh! Why things could be so hard? You might say. It’s a little hard to understand because you definitely like each other.  And you wonder why he doesn’t want  a relationship?

He is single and unattached. He doesn’t date a lot of women around. He’s (definitely) not gay.

So, you wonder.. and wonder.. and wonder.