The Type Of Person You Deserve Will Never Make You Settle

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Perfection is the world’s most appealing impossibility. It’s both incredibly enticing and logically improbable – in every case and scenario. When considering our ideal life partners, we should be wary looking for such perfection. We are all flawed animals, striving to grasp an ideal that is out of our reach.

So if we aren’t looking for perfect, then what exactly are we looking for? Surely, we all have certain characteristics that we find especially appealing in a potential partner, but what’s most important isn’t so much the individual.

What’s most important is how that person interacts with you, how that person treats you. In the end, we’re not looking for perfect. We’re looking for perfect for us. You want, no, you deserve a partner who treats you perfectly.

You deserve someone who cares about you. Finding someone who cares about what you can do for him or her is easy, but finding a person who cares about you because he or she believes you to be one of, if not the most important, aspect of his or her life is much more difficult.

You deserve someone who cares about your safety and well-being, who cares about the way you feel, who cares about the things you do and the things that occur in your life. You deserve someone who doesn’t have to tell you that he or she cares because you already know that he or she does.

You deserve someone who brings happiness to your life. Most of the people we interact with in our lives manage to do little more than annoy us or try to use us as means to their own ends. Most people will make your life more difficult, more complicated, more stressful and more miserable.

You deserve better. You deserve a person in your life who brings a smile to your face the second he or she walks into the room. You deserve someone who makes you laugh, fills you with energy and joy. You deserve someone who makes you feel more alive than you have ever felt before.

You deserve a partner – a real partner. Not only a partner on paper, but a partner in crime, a partner in joy, a partner in sadness, a partner in all the difficult situations you will find yourself in throughout your lifetime.

You deserve a partner who will be there for you, who will always have your back, always take your side, always catch you when you fall, a partner who will never give up on you or walk out on you. Most importantly, you deserve a partner who’s there for you because he or she wants to be there for you, not because it feels like it’s his or her responsibility to do so. You deserve someone who loves you.

You deserve someone who will take care of you when you’re sick, who will bring you chicken soup, who will hold your hair back when you’re throwing up in the toilet and then clean up after you without a single hint of protest. You deserve someone who will care for you better than he or she cares for him or herself because, to this person, you are more important.

You deserve someone willing to lose an argument. Someone who will only tell you lies when it’s lies that you want to hear. Someone who will hold your hand, lie with you in bed for hours, look into your eyes because that’s where this person feels most comfortable.

You deserve someone willing to make a fool out of him or herself for you, someone willing to sacrifice for you, work for you, fight for you, cry for you, die for you.

You deserve someone who makes you want to be a better person. Someone who shows you your true potential and believes in you. You deserve someone who’s willing to run alongside you as you fight your battles, encouraging you to keep running, keep pushing, keep reaching for your goals. You deserve a person in your life who will never allow you to stop dreaming, to stop believing that anything in life is possible.

You deserve to have a person in your life who is beautifully flawed, who doesn’t have all the answers, but is willing to search for them with you. You deserve someone who truly knows how to live life and – more importantly – someone who wants to share that life with you. You deserve someone to care for, to hold, to love. You deserve such an individual because you’re a good person and good people deserve good people in their lives.

Weird-ity

I declare today as "World Weird Day".  How cool is that? Nope. It's no holiday.  But we can pay a little more attention to our individual weird-ity or weirdness (however you want it to be called) and Celebrate it! 

Now, I'll have here a bunch of weird quotes.. Uhhh! No, the quotes aren't weird but they're a bunch of "Weird" quotes. That's clearer. I hope..

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“We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it Love—True Love.” ― Robert Fulghum, True Love

Uhmmn, okay. I am Weird. I can say that out loud straight with all honesty. I am happy to be weird and people finds me weird. Okay enough of that. Now, who's weirdness is compatible with mine? I need to find another Weirdooooo to fall to. Uhhh, Life! P.S. "Find" is a big word in a big world.

“Where's your will to be weird?”  ― Jim Morrison

I'm wearing it every single day *winks*

“I am weird, you are weird. Everyone in this world is weird. One day two people come together in mutual weirdness and fall in love.”  ― Dr. Seuss

Okay. Who are you???

“There are people who are generic. They make generic responses and they expect generic answers. They live inside a box and they think people who don't fit into their box are weird. But I'll tell you what, generic people are the weird people. They are like genetically-manipulated plants growing inside a laboratory, like indistinguishable faces, like droids. Like ignorance.” ― C. JoyBell C.

Generic people are the weird people? Uhmm, I'm thinking the other way around. That's all.

“Some are born weird, some achieve it, others have weirdness thrust upon them.”  ― Dick Francis, To the Hilt

Since Birth.

“Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone - and finding that that's ok with them.”  ― Alain de Botton

In layman's terms: Love means Acceptance.

“You get lonely, is what it is. A person's not supposed to go through life with absolutely nobody. It's not normal. The longer you go by yourself the weirder you get, and the weirder you get the longer you go by yourself. It's a loop and you gotta do something to get out of it.”  ― Jim Shepard

And you get weirder.. and weirder.. and weirder (tomorrow never dies). Greatness then!

“Weirdism is definitely the cornerstone of many an artist's career.”  ― E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly

Weirdness is Creativity. Therefore, artistry id weirdity. And yes, I fit into that.

“Dare to Differ”  ― Matthew Goldfinger

There's already a lot of 'generic' people. Dig deep into your inner self and there might be something hiding in there. It's also called "Uniqueness". If you do something that most people don't normally do, you are unique. In the modern world, you are called 'Weird'.

“There's a whole category of people who miss out by not allowing themselves to be weird enough.”  ― Alain de Botton

Life is too short to be ordinary.

“I like weird. Conformity bores but is inescapable for the most part. We all follow something, even if it is following the goal of wanting to stand apart. We are a sea of ordinary people; it is always the quirk, the flaw or the ingenuity that stands out.” 
― Donna Lynn Hope

“I was always fascinated by people who are considered completely normal, because I find them the weirdest of all”  ― Johnny Depp

Normal people are the weird ones in the eyes of the weird people.

“You're making me nervous by being so weird.  But your weirdness is what I like about you.” ― Jaclyn Moriarty, The Year of Secret Assignments

You're weird. I'm weird. We'll make a perfect couple :)

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Weirdness, uniqueness, creativity or whatever you  call "it" is inborn. It is innate in each one of us. It cannot be learned. It is what defines us as individuals. There are just some people who has yet to discover their individuality. But for some people, it is the purpose of their existence.

Hey, don't forget! It's World Weird Day today..

And tomorrow.. and the day after tomorrow.. and the day after the day after tommorow.. Yeah, it's Everyday!

Celebrate your being YOU!

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Quotes from www.goodreads.com

I Wish for...

It will take long to list all my wishes
But I'm sure that my King will grant
A love that's pure and healing
To rule in everybody's heart..

I'd like to wish for rainbows
And for some pots of gold
But I'd rather wish for peace
To spread thru the whole world..

Something that glitters would be lovely
But I would not really mind -
If my King will make all the stars
Sparkling up all night..

Shall I wish, my King, for angels -
To come down here and sing praises
To inspire us all with cheers
And fill our hearts with joy..

I wish for faith for the hopeless
And a home for the homeless
A shelter for every child on the street
And more than a penny for a beggar in need.

I have more wishes, my King
But how much more must I plea?
If none more, then this will be the last
And if you may, grant with your heart:

I wish my King be my friend
And I wish he will never forget
That once upon a December -
He met this Princess from somewhere..

Not Goodbye But Goodnight

Close your eyes, Daddy
And lay down to your rest,
We all know how much you're tired now-
Much more pain we wouldn't let.
Close your eyes now, Daddy
We'll all stand close by,
But we'll only say 'Goodnight, Daddy'
And not the sad goodbye.

Close your eyes now, Daddy
And worry for us no more,
The days ahead will be different-
But you'll just be up there for sure,
We know that you won't leave us
By closing your eyes we knew-
You'd be our angel in heaven
And you'll be watching us through.

Close your eyes now, Daddy
We'll have tears for a while,
As your presence here on Earth
Will be missed all the time,
But Daddy we assure you
That in our hearts you'll live,
So goodbye this is not gonna be-
But just goodnight in serenity.

Close your eyes now, Daddy
As we kiss you goodnight,
We'll hold your hand for the last time
But it will never be goodbye,
God awaits you in His embrace
While all the angels in Heaven sings-
Their hymns and praises as they welcome
Another child of our Almighty King.

-by TsoCo Lat-

15 October 2011

Daddy

I am away from home working abroad when my father, whom my sisters and I used to call 'Daddy',  was hospitalized due to Chronic Renal Failure. Since I was in elementary, he already sufferred from kidney stones and have undergone one operation.

There was two instances that stucked in my young memory how my father's life had been all about this stones.

First was when we were walking around the block down to our house in Manila when he suddenly stopped and folded his knees on the ground due to the abrupt pain on his lower side of the belly. I couldn't describe the look on his face and I run to our house shouting ''Mama''. I was like 7 or 8 years old then.

Second was after 5 or 6 years when he surprised us one day by showing up in front of our home when we all know that he's working abroad.  He never told anyone, even my Mama, that he's coming home that day. When we found out that he is sick and should undergo a kidney stone operation - that's when we understood why his coming home had been a surprise.

As I have been busy turning into an adolescent that time of my father's life, all I can remember is the scar that is visible on the lower left side of his tummy. The living scar that I believed had freed him from the pain. I have always looked at it with gladness because that scar means my Dad is okay.

But I was wrong. And I only realized that when he again started to have symptoms like the cloudy-brown urine which only means that there is again an infection in his urinary tract. He again suffered pain.

It was confusing at times why it is happening. My father  doesn't drink alcohol. He doesn't smoke (though I know smoking does not have anything to do with kidney stones). He eats home-cooked meal directly from our kitchen, cooked by my Mom. He kept a diet as advised by doctors. He also used to drink a tea made from 'sambong' leaves to help clean his urine. He drinks litres of water everytime. Litres! Enough to wash out the acids and toxins in his body that causes the infections.

But it doesn't end.

Being diagnosed with Chronic Renal Failure now is a nightmare. And that is where he is now -- on a hospital bed without any sign of recovery. He has oxygen because he coughs continuously due to pneumonia. He had been ''tubed'' for a dialysis procedure to avoid the spreading of the toxins in his system. And lately, he had been ''tubed'' from the nose to his stomach to enable feeding.

As I am far away, my youngest sister keeps me up-to-date with our father's status and she writes this to me just a while ago..

     ''Our dad had been confined at the hospital for more than 2 weeks now due to chronic renal failure. His kidneys are not functioning properly that's why his creatinine levels are very high. The complications made the hemoglobin in his blood very low thus needing a blood transfusion from time to time. He is undergoing a series of hemodialysis 2 to 3 times a week to remove the toxins that poisons the blood. He is also suffering from pneumonia, his lungs had been filled with water which caused him to cough non-stop. The tubes in one of his lungs are not functioning anymore as the pulmonary doctor had said. He had a mild heart attack upon confinement 2 weeks ago. His hands and feet are swollen due to water retention and he seldom urinate.''

     ''He now feeds on a tube inserted from the nose to the stomach. He never sleep for the past 4 days, he only took naps. He talks a lot and hums melodies while eyes are closed. He sings a lot yesterday. He even puts the pain that he feels into a song... 'parang andami dw bata at alambreng umiikot s likod nya' (seems like there's a lot of little kids playing and cable wires going round and round his back) ... He thanks all the friends and relatives visiting him in a song with a happy tune, 'Salamat,salamat sa inyo.. Dinalaw,dinalaw niny0 ako.." (Thank you, thank you to all of you for visiting me). Daddy is not capable to speak properly now... but he still responds by nodding or turning his head slightly from side to side.''

He could not sleep now. Or to write it exactly as what is right - he doesn't want to sleep now. For the past 4 days, he just takes short naps because he's afraid that he will not wake up anymore when he sleep.

I could not imagine his pain. I could not even imagine how he looks on the hospital bed. And it just breaks me. It breaks us all apart even without feeling a bit of the pain he is feeling right now and even not knowing how hard he struggles for every breath to live.

He needs a miracle from above. And a miracle with all the love we can give.

I could only pray,

''Embrace him, Lord,

Hold my father's hand.

Give him the strength to stay if he should,

But if he must leave -

Lead him to Your Light.

Amen.''

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Our prayers are always heard.

  Everything that happens is in God’s sublime and magnificent plan.

  We are not ignored.

  Only that God has His own time.

  Trust that everything is in His hands.

-TsoCo Lat-

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''It’s not easy not to move knowing that you’re needed from a thousand miles away by the people you love.

But with restrictions of all  kinds, all you can do is sit and watch with your mind.

And feel cold.. and not sleep.. and cry.''

 

 

- TsoCo Lat-